After church one evening I was herding the kids out the door, when a lady stopped me. Giving me that knowing look she asked rather loudly, “Are we expecting again?”
“Ha ha,” I couldn’t help laughing, “are you saying I look fat? No, we are certainly not expecting again!”
“Oh, oh,” she stammered, “I uh, just figured it was about time for another one. I didn’t mean that you…look fat.”
Uh huh. Now that might have been a logical conclusion if I was like one of the ladies at church that are having a baby every year, but my kids are all two to three years apart. No, I really think it was an honest mistake, bless her heart!
I came home and got on the treadmill! 😉
I think your response couldn’t have been more perfect. People are so amazing. Even if it was an honest mistake, they need to keep their noses in their own business. If you were expecting, she’d find out in due time.
I’m sure she was kicking herself. I say crazy things to people that later I wish I hadn’t too. I thought it was funny! 🙂
Jessica P says
Oh no! I keep getting the look of ” ok your youngest is 18 months now, time to get going again”, but no one has asked…yet!
I thought these questions were asked only to Dutch mothers 🙂 As far as I see you on the picture you’re not fat. Oh, oh … I would be ashamed if I was that lady.
Actually that photo of me in the white shirt–I was about 6 months pregnant at the time. Maybe it’s time for some new photos. Wait, maybe after a couple of months on the treadmill. lol
Susan Evans says
Years ago a lady at my church asked if I was pregnant. I wasn’t. When I got home, I asked my husband, “Does this shirt make me look fat?” The ensuing conversation was interesting…
I’ve learnt to ask questions that don’t get me into trouble. Like, the old tried and trusted plain old, “How are you?” I’ve also got into trouble asking when someone was due only to find out she had had a miscarriage… Rough
Catherine Lee says
I always steer clear of that conversation!
Sandra Keith says
That poor lady must have died inside. I made the same awful mistake when I was in charge of our church nursery. One mom, who didn’t attend often but was a church member, came to pick up her daughter one Sunday and I asked her when the baby was due. She looked pregnant to me. She informed me she wasn’t pregnant and where had I gotten that idea. Boy, I had to do some fast stepping rather than tell her she looked either pregnant or fat. I never made that mistake again. From then on, I waited till I was told someone was pregnant, rather than assume so from their appearance. I bet your friend will do the same.
One time a clerk at a convenience store asked me when my baby was due. Rather than embarrass her or myself *too* badly in front of all the people in line behind me, I thought quickly and said “I already had the baby” hoping that would imply that I had just given birth and hadn’t lost the baby weight yet. Then she had to ruin everything by asking me how old the baby was! So I answered truthfully, “Six years old.”
I would have rushed home to my treadmill too. Love people’s comments.
Melanie, that is too funny. The same thing happened to me last year only I had to say nine years old. lol!
I love all tthe comments on this post! Esther, you look great and no worries about jumping onto a treadmill! You always make me laugh with your stories! Great work! Michelle 🙂
Sara, I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s had that experience!!! 🙂
Ahhhhhh! I just did that to a lady I thought for sure was pregnant. I feel like a fool. Hope she forgets but I’m sure she won’t.
Heather, I’ve made the same mistake myself! 😉