In order to cut costs, Jason decided not to get a land phone line, but just to use cell phones. The plan he bought, however, only allowed me 500 minutes. A quiet man like my husband could not imagine using that many minutes in a month. Well, I was in a new place, completely friendless, with two children and pregnant, and having no money to spend to go anywhere, so talking to my Mom and sisters on the phone was my only way of conversing with anyone. Those 500 minutes were gone in less than two weeks because, of course, on a cell phone even when someone called me, it was using up my minutes. So I couldn’t even talk to my family.
Meanwhile, Jason was pouring himself into his new job. He loved it. He would get up early and come home late. But things really got bad when he started his graduate classes. I was having an extremely difficult time, but he really didn’t notice. I begged him to at least just start with one class that semester while I was pregnant and everything was still new, but he thought two classes would be fine. He threw himself into his studies. He had evening classes two nights a week, so on those evenings he didn’t even get home until about 9:30. On the afternoons he did come home, he would eat supper, spend a little while playing with the kids, and then study all night.
I was so lonely, and I didn’t even have anyone to talk to. It was during this time that I was introduced to social media. I had never used instant messaging or Facebook before that, only email. I thought it was really cool! A man that was a friend of our family began talking to me online. I didn’t really think much about it at first, but he started being very complimentary, and since I was feeling so lonely and neglected by my husband, I found myself dwelling on the nice things this man said. It kind of scared me, actually, because I thought, you know, this is the way affairs get started–in the mind. Well, I told my husband all about it and completely cut ties with that person. In hindsight, I really don’t think the man meant anything inappropriate by the things he said, but, given my frame of mind, I saw how the situation could have become a problem.