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Newlywed Cooking Lessons

When we were first married, I set out to be the perfect wife.  Only my new husband’s definition of the perfect wife and mine were immensely different.  So for several months, okay years, I labored on my own mission and he set out to tell me how he wanted me to be.  Fun, fun, fun!

One example was with the cooking.  I would come home from work and get busy preparing a home-cooked meal.  Grandly setting it on the table I would hold my breath in anticipation of his rave reviews–that never came.  “This isn’t how my grandma makes it.”

Dejected but determined, I would do the same thing the next day.  “I like my dad’s recipe better.”

And the next day.  “It’s kind of salty.”

And the next day, “How much butter does this have in it?”

I made lasagna.  It was too dry.

One day I made a meal of fried Spam that my mom had made often.  “This looks like cat food,” he said.  “Please don’t ever make it again.”

You get the idea.  He didn’t mean to complain.  He was just trying to help me.

Frustration was building as I plugged away trying to finally make a meal that he would love.  I decided to make tacos.  Let me insert here that I am a missionary’s kid raised in Mexico.  If there was anything I knew I could make, it was tacos.  This time I knew it would be a hit!  I set everything on the table and just waited for the compliments.  He looked around the table, eyebrows furrowed and asked, “Where are the shells?”

“Shells?”

“Yeah, the taco shells.”

Realizing what he must mean, I handed him a nice hot tortilla that I had wrapped in towels to keep warm.  He made his taco with the meat that I seasoned myself, took a bite and declared, “The meat is not supposed to be crunchy!”

All the pent up frustration and disappointment from not being able to please him came spewing out then.  I stood up, threw my napkin on the table and shouted, “I know how to make tacos!  I grew up in Mexico for crying out loud.  If you want shells go to the ocean.  That’s where they belong!”  I stomped out of the room, threw myself on my bed and had my very own pity party!

Poor Jason was totally blindsided.  He was completely unaware of my utter disappointment at his reactions to my meals.  This was definitely a turning point for us.  Although he really isn’t one to rave, he did quit comparing my cooking to his family’s–a huge victory all by itself!

To read more about my cooking troubles click here:  Meals that Flopped.

Esther

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8 Comments Filed Under: Marriage, My Man Tagged: funny, husband, marriage, wisdom

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  1. Unplanned Cooking says

    October 11, 2010 at 9:28 am

    Funny – our husbands sound alike. My husband is the kindest person I know, but he’s also the most honest. He’s since learned that sometimes I don’t want the truth :).

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  2. Mike says

    October 12, 2010 at 10:14 am

    I guess my mistakes in this (helpful comments, etc.) area came while dating where my innocent comments were not taken very well. I was just glad to have something to eat when we were first married and I guess I can eat just about anything. I did learn to “read” her reactions to certain meals so if I knew she didn’t like something either, I would ask, “so what did you think about that?” LOL

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  3. Tina says

    October 12, 2010 at 6:54 pm

    Oh Esther, That is a lesson well learned by all of us. I believe that most of the time honesty is the best policy, but sometimes we just need to bite our tongue and not say anything.

    That’s kind of a hard thing too to compare your spouse’s cooking with your families cooking. That’s a

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  4. Tina says

    October 12, 2010 at 6:57 pm

    Hi Esther,

    That’s a BIG OUCHY! When you compare your spouse’s cooking with your families. Honesty is usually the best policy but sometimes we need to just not say anything!

    I’m glad it all worked out for the best!

    In Christ’s Love & Prayers
    Sis in Christ
    Tina

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  5. Sarah says

    July 1, 2013 at 9:27 pm

    LOL!!!! This sounds very familiar 🙂 except I love to bake and have no clue at cooking….so I will admit that his constructive criticism on my cooking is needful ;p I will say though at lunch today he did not say ONE word. I said, “Lunch must be good if you don’t have anything to say.” Boy, was it hard for him to admit it! ha ha ha.

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