I have been on Facebook since January of 2007 according to my timeline. It also says I got married on July 20, 2007 so we know we can’t trust all the information coming from there! I have loved being able to be in touch with so many people that I’ve known throughout my life. I would have never dreamed it possible six years ago!
As I blunder through real life sticking my foot in my mouth and offending people unintentionally, so too on Facebook. In the beginning of my Facebook experience I was so happy to find old friends. I actually added people as a friend on Facebook because I was interested in getting reacquainted with them and wondered how their life had changed since the last time I saw them. Occasionally, after finding someone, I would message them and write on their wall and then never hear back. I found that irritating! What was the point of Facebook if we weren’t going to communicate? So…can you see where this is going? I would routinely go through the list and unfriend those who hadn’t responded! I had no idea how personal people took unfriending them on Facebook! I cringe when I think of all those people I unfriended!
I never took friending on Facebook that seriously, so I naturally didn’t realize how others did. I don’t pay attention to how many “friends” I have on there and wouldn’t notice if I’ve lost a few. For some reason though I saw that I had been unfriended by a gal from church. I didn’t know her well, but she was one of my kid’s teachers. I found myself wondering why. Did I offend her? Did she not like me? Did my status updates annoy her? These questions went through my mind before I stopped and listened to my thoughts? What did it really matter? I hardly knew this lady from church anyway and who knows how long I had been “unfriended” before I realized it. Crazy that it should bother me, but it was a little taste of how other people must feel.
I am much more cautious now about the whole process, but I still unfriend people on occasion. 1. Anyone posting adult content is deleted whether they be friend, foe, or family member! 2. Those who send multiple game requests a day. I like getting Facebook notifications on my phone for personal messages, but unfortunately they include all of the game requests as well. I used to play games on Facebook so I understand the fun of it, but I am significantly annoyed to get notifications every few minutes that are game related. I don’t know; there may be a simpler answer for this one, but I haven’t found one.
(Okay here is an update that I copied from a friend’s Facebook status: “If you don’t want to see any of the posts I like or comment on, please go to my timeline and hover over the “friend” button which will give you a list of options, then click “settings” then uncheck “comments & likes” or any other activity you may not want to have show up on your news feed.” I will be doing this. By the way I only deleted one person because of the unceasing game notifications. I was getting them every few minutes all day long!)
How do you take or handle unfriending?
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